How to Start a Lay Church, Principle XI: Tithe… But Not to the Lay Church!

When I share the .W lay church model with folks, I find that consistently one of the biggest attractions is that we expect members to tithe, right from the get-go. That’s not your typical church recruitment draw, but our tithe is not your typical tithe.

Let me explain.

As Generous Church notes, 97% of the money donated to churches is spent on those who give it. That’s neither good nor biblical, and we Christians should be publicly spanked for that.

Rather than taking an offering each Sunday, the lay church prepares to make our offering once a month, on the last Sunday of each month. A month’s preparation has a way of keeping the offering from being a tip for services rendered (literally).

And money is only one part of a member’s offering. In addition, we offer to the Lord each of the songs and each of the Scriptures we learned that month. (You’ll recall from Principle IV that in the lay church we learn–really learn–one song and one Scripture each week, introducing them in the meeting and then having each member practice them nightly in family worship.) We invite each member to offer a Scripture from memory or to lead us in one of the songs we learned. We encourage members to choose the Scripture or song which they found particular challenging or insightful during the month. They precede their offering with a short offering prayer, which helps them–and us–to remember that it is indeed an offering.

But money’s a big part of the offering, too, of that have no doubt. It’s just not money going mainly to the church.

That’s because while each member is expected to offer a tithe, only 30 percent of that tithe is given to the church. (Of that, a third goes to the .W church, a third goes to the Four Corners Conference of the Evangelical Church–our denomination’s regional conference of which we’re a part—or the Evangelical Church Missions program, in the case of our Korean congregation. The final third goes to the Evangelical Church denomination).

But 70 percent of each member’s tithe is consecrated at the altar…and then immediately received back again by each member, to be disbursed personally by that member as the church’s minister within his or her own sphere of influence.

Individuals then use that portion of the tithe to carry out whatever the Work of Mercy is that we’re doing that month. If the Work of Mercy is sharing your bread with the poor, they use the 70% to share their bread with the poor. If it’s healing and comforting, they use the 70% to heal and comfort.

Sometimes members give a portion of the money to an organization that ministers in that particular Work of Mercy, but the focus is really on encouraging the members to undertake ministry directly, in conjunction with that disbursement of funds.

That’s partially facilitated by the field trip that accompanies Offering Sunday each month. If the Work of Mercy for the month is evangelism, the church takes a field trip to do evangelism. If we’re giving away books or tracts or grocery gift cards to the poor–whatever is disbursed, that can come out of a member’s tithe.

Also in the Offering Sunday, each giver shares how they disbursed their 70% over the previous month. We borrow from the US Army something called an “AAR”—After Action Review. We ask each “giving unit” (might be one person or it might be a family—definitely include your kids in the giving decisions and the direct ministry; where else will they learn?) to answer the four questions below as they share about how they distributed their offering from this past month in relation to the Work of Mercy on which we focused:

  • Step 1: What was the intent?
  • Step 2: What happened? Why? What are the implications?
  • Step 3: What lessons did we learn?
  • Step 4: Now what? How can our giving continue in that Work of Mercy in the future?

Note that lay church members don’t get a tax deduction for the 70% they give, since it never goes into the church’s bank account. There’s something healthy and challenging about that—no earthly reward for giving except, well, giving well! And since most lay churches need not incorporate at all anyway, since what with the money flowing through them being pretty modest, maybe none of the tithe will be tax deductible. There’s a biblical ring about that, somehow.

In the lay church, the tithing message to potential congregation members is up front and clear:

Of course this Jesus discipleship stuff is going to involve a radical change in the way you spend your money.

But you can trust us to guide you in it well, since we’re not the beneficiaries.

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How to Start a Lay Church, Principle X: Use Volunteer Lay Pastors to Lead Local Churches

It’s hard being a pastor in a traditional church setting. You have to be a theologian, a public speaker, a counselor, a manager, an event planner, a fundraiser, a mediator, a facilities manager, and about a hundred other things. No wonder professional training is needed and burnout is so high.

As we worked with the North Korean underground church, however–arguably in an infinitely more stressful environment–we didn’t find burnout.

Come to think of it, we didn’t find full time paid pastors either.

Instead we found a very different model—one which, the more we reflected on it, seemed to have more in common with the New Testament model than the Western model with which most of us are familiar.

It also seemed to be growing Christians to fullness in Christ on a much more regular (and rapid) schedule than anything we saw happening in traditional Western congregations–even though the environment in North Korea is anything but regular.

The North Korean underground church—along with other persecuted churches around the world and throughout history (not least of which would be the churches named in the New Testament)—has had to learn ways of worship that do not depend on full-time local church pastors. Fathers, mothers, and household leaders became the natural overseers of churches that met in homes. If pastors visit (which, in NK, they typically can’t), they supplement–not replace–the pastoral oversight of the family head or neighborhood lay leader.

And such a model is hardly a New Testament relic or an inevitable result of living in a country where being a Christian will get you killed. It’s the model that John Wesley pressed into service, first in England and then in North America, when the Wesleyan Revival produced the kind of converts in the kind of places that didn’t much mesh well with the prevailing church model. Wesley appointed band leaders, local pastors, and circuit riders to do the kinds of things that today have been centralized in one figure: the pastor. What such centralization may gain in efficiency it loses—dramatically—in promoting maturity.

Meaning: if the pastor preaches in your church every Sunday, it’s unlikely that the average church member will learn to preach.

If, however, the pastor stops by once every six weeks…or six months…or (as in North Korea) never, then it’s amazing how well other folks learn to preach.

And do theology.

And counsel.

And manage.

And plan events.

And fundraise.

And mediate.

And manage facilities (which, in this case, aren’t church buildings but rather homes and other public places specially re-tooled to host church worship; in our house, for example, we’ve got this giant altar table right about where a big screen TV would sit in most homes).

And do about a hundred other things that develop when volunteer lay pastors are used to lead lay churches.

Like help ordinary Christians grow to fullness in Christ, by the power of the Holy Spirit.

In the early church, leadership wasn’t something you chose to “go into,” like a profession. It was something you grew into, as you grew to fullness in Christ and people recognized this about you—that you could help them grow in the same way. It’s what enabled Paul to say, in 1 Corinthians 11:1, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ.”

So using volunteer lay pastors is more than a tactical model with strategic benefits (like keeping costs low, which it does, of course). Using volunteer lay pastors ensures that the lay church places the highest priority on each member growing to fullness in Christ. Also, by making sure that all local lay pastors are volunteers, the local pastor serves as a model for each member of the congregation to imitate–as they imitate Christ.

So does this mean bible school and seminary and ordination are obsolete? By no means. They make perfect sense for people moving beyond the oversight of a single lay church, to regional church oversight. It is only at the level of a regional leader that there should be any pay or seminary training contemplated. And that pay should be something like a stipend—just enough to offset costs, not enough to cause someone to aspire to the position as a means of supporting himself or herself.

Remember: lay churches are small—two dozen people would be splitting the seams of one. And the purpose of the lay church is to grow members to fullness in Christ so that each one can lead their own lay church…as a volunteer lay pastor.

So right from the outset, make clear that members are permitted only one year “in the nest” of your lay church. Each lay church is composed of lay church planters in training. Each attendee is a church in seed form and should be trained and treated as such not only from the very first Sunday they arrive, but from their recruitment (see Principle 1 earlier in this series, and also check out 2 Timothy 2:2).

Oh—and one more note: We don’t say to our lay pastors, “Share a message each week that you dig out of a devotional magazine or a small group study series you think might be useful.” The message that lay pastors are sharing each week is one that the church’s ordained regional leaders have written, focused on the Work of Mercy that we’re hearing and doing that month. It’s a process much like that of John Wesley, who supplied books of sermons to his lay pastors and directed them to preach those messages.

So lay aside the goal of creating a big lay church. There’s no need (or value) in creating a congregation bigger than the ones in the Bible. Even Romans was written to a cluster of several small lay churches. Keep the size small enough so that each person is leading the whole group in something each week.

And twelve months is enough time to go through one Whole Life Offering cycle—one month of preparation, ten months of focusing on one Work of Mercy each month, and then one month of reflection and celebration. Then each member heads out…to head up their own lay church!

This doesn’t mean that the groups divide, like in a small group model. It really does mean that each member—or family unit (like a husband and wife) is heading out to head up their own lay church. For each person (or unit), that new lay church will be drawn from the individuals in their sphere of influence who they’ve evangelized and already begun to disciple as a result of doing the word in each of the Works of Mercy in year one.

The “nest” doesn’t get tossed into the trash can, however. The lay church that graduates its members also graduates itself, becoming a leaders’ meeting. The meeting time moves off of Sunday morning (since the new lay pastors will likely be leading new groups then) and moves to, for example, in our case, a Tuesday night. The lay pastor becomes a regional pastor, using the leaders’ meetings to train each of the members to be lay pastors.

And so on it continues from year to year—a 2 Timothy 2:2 symphony.

Some might wonder if it’s a realistic expectation for ordinary Christians to become lay pastors in a year. After all, many traditional congregations go years without producing even one pastor.

But in places where Christians are persecuted (including most all of the churches in the New Testament), there’s a word for a congregation that goes years without producing a pastor.

Extinct.

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How to Start a Lay Church, Principle IX: Leave the Kids in the Room with You When You’re Doing Church

Humanity is mimetic, which is a fancy way of saying that God has wired us to learn by imitation far more than by any other method, whether explanation or training or emotional stimulation.

Or coloring book page or Veggie Tales video.

So we shouldn’t be surprised by the report from the Barna Research Group on who teens turn to as role models. The upshot of that study:

Even while limiting the answers to non-parents, family members still comes out on top. The most commonly mentioned role model is a relative—37% of teens named a relation other than their parent as the person they admire most. This is typically a grandparent, but also includes sisters, brothers, cousins, aunts, and uncles. After “family,” teens mention teachers and coaches (11%), friends (9%), and pastors or other religious leaders they know personally (6%).

Animated talking vegetables and Bible superhero action figures failed to make the cut.

But equally important to who youth regard as role models is why. The Barna study provides the answer: character in proximity. No shocker here: We become like who we’re around.

That being the case, why do we pull children out of “big church” and put them in “children’s church” where they are robbed of the ability to imitate us? Is it any wonder that kids drop out of church with clockwork regularity when they hit college age, since they’ve had no experience imitating adult Christians?

In 1 Corinthians 11:1, Paul writes, ‘Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ,’ and in 2 Thessalonians 3:7, he adds, ‘For you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example.’

But how would children know how to follow our example if they never see it?

I know, I know: left in the “main sanctuary,” kids swing from the ceiling fans during sermons and make lots of unsolemn noises during prayer time. So we pull them out of the main sanctuary and plop them down in a kiddie sanctuary and give them kiddie versions of sermons, songs, Scriptures, and offering times. Goal: that the kiddie versions would train them for the real thing.

Reality: the kiddie versions teach them that sermons, songs, Scriptures, and offering times are for kiddies.

So endure the pain, the swinging from the ceiling fans, the unsolemn noises. They watch more than you think they do, you know.

When I lead the Korean .W congregation by videoconference, I don’t speak Korean, so while they pray I’m free to occasionally crack one eyelid open and survey the situation. Without fail, I see the children watch an adult pray—for just a moment, and then they go back to coloring or swinging from the chandelier or smashing a sibling’s face into the ground.

Point is, you have to be willing to endure the awkwardness in order to let the kid get close enough to you for long enough to observe you and imitate you.

Gerald Schlabach, author of Unlearning Protestantism, a brilliant book on how to be Protestant in all of the right ways and none of the wrong ones (after all, knowing what to protest and what not to is half the battle), notes that we moderns “have ever fewer resources for forming lives of Christian discipleship or communities of Christian witness.” That’s especially true of our children. All of the Veggie Tales videos and Bible superhero action figures in the Sunday School room can’t take the place of what you learn by watching your parents worship–and by joining in, no matter how clumsily or sporadically.

Habits require training, as one internalizes moral motor skills that one can only clumsily imitate at first, based on the example of others. If those habits are to be good rather than bad, however, practitioners must apprentice with those more advanced in the craft–in this case, the craftlike practice of Christian discipleship.

Imitation, not age-appropriate curriculum design, is the key method the Scripture commends for making disciples. And it’s the key method for how kids—and all human beings–learn. We’re mimetic. Kids stop going to church when they become adults because they never saw how adults act as Christians.

So leave your kids in the room when you’re doing lay church. Have them learn the same songs and stories you learn at the same time, in the same way. As they get older, practice reciting the Bible stories you’re learning in front of them, with them holding the Bible and correcting you when you mess up.

But rather than write more, let me just invite you to listen to the audio below. It’s one of the Korean dads in our .W/Korea congregation being imitated by his three and five year old (ostensibly non-English speaking) sons in their family worship time as they both learn the song assigned for the week in .W church.

Enjoy–and imitate.

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