“Prevenient Grace”: The Theological Term for “Hospitality”

Part I of our series on Opening Your Home

Two Greek words in the New Testament are rendered in English as “hospitality.”

The first is philoxenia (used here, here, here, here, and here) which literally means “lover of strangers.”  In other words, according to the Bible, hospitality doesn’t refer to us hosting our friends and family well.

It refers to us opening up our homes to people we’ve never met.

A second Greek word for hospitality, xenodocheo (used here) is a compound of xenos, which means “stranger,” or “someone without the knowledge of, without a share in,” and dechomai, which means “receive,” “accept,” “take with the hand,” “give ear to,” “embrace,” or even “to receive into one’s family to bring up or educate.”  Hospitality, then, extends even to taking by the hand and embracing into one’s family the other who has no share in or knowledge of one’s own identity and life and values.

Our first instinct is to think about this in terms of ourselves. Could I accept into my home someone who does not share in or know my identity, life, and values?  This is a great question…but it’s not where we want to start. Instead, we start by asking, “How did Christ first perform this Work of Mercy on me?”

When we think about things this way, we see that God accepts into his home a race of people (us) who do not share in or know his identity, life, and values.

Theologically, we have a name for this Work of Mercy of God. We call it prevenient grace.

But before we dive into that, let’s take a step back and ask what we mean when we talk about hospitality. A great definition comes from David Gushee in his review of a great book, Making Room: Hospitality as a Christian Tradition, by Christine Pohl:

This is the biblical meaning of hospitality—making room for the stranger, especially those in most acute need. Such care must not be reduced to mere social entertaining nor may it be self-interested and reciprocal; instead, biblical hospitality reaches out to the abject and lowly and expects nothing in return. Hospitality is not optional, nor should it be understood as a rare spiritual gift; instead, it is a normative biblical practice that is learned by doing it.

Hospitality, or its lack, was immediately apparent in the towns and cultures of the ancient world. As biblical historian Rodney K. Duke notes, in the absence of a professional hospitality industry, the survival of the traveler really did depend entirely upon the kindness of strangers:

The plight of aliens was desperate. They lacked membership in the community, be it tribe, city-state, or nation. As an alienated person, the traveler often needed immediate food and lodging. Widows, orphans, the poor, or sojourners from other lands lacked the familial or community status that provided a landed inheritance, the means of making a living, and protection. In the ancient world the practice of hospitality meant graciously receiving an alienated person into one’s land, home, or community and providing directly for that person’s needs.

That’s exactly what God does for the human race as a whole and for us individually!

On a day-by-day basis, we usually have very little awareness of how completely desperate our plight is without God’s moment-by-moment hospitality!  In our next post, we’ll explore God’s hospitality to the Israelites and the entire human race.

For now, though, stop and ponder: How did God show his hospitality to you today?

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What Protestant Christians (Should) Believe About the Lord’s Supper

Part XII of our series on Sharing Your Bread

At the end of each series in .W Church (and on this blog) we take time to offer ourselves back to God in worship through the offering of Scriptures and songs which we’ve memorized, and the giving of our 70/30 tithes and offerings.

As I’ve mentioned before, this is also the time when we conduct our “AAR” (After Action Review).

Today, in addition to encouraging you to do these same things, I want to ask you to think with me more about the Lord’s Supper, especially in light of all that we’ve covered these past few weeks.

It’s important, as we partake of it, to understand what we believe about that supper as Evangelical Church Protestants. Catholics believe that the bread and wine are transformed literally into the body of Christ. That is not what we believe.

Some Lutherans (not all) believe that the bread and wine remain physically bread and wine but that the body and blood of Christ become locally present alongside the bread and wine each time we partake of it.

We Protestants believe is that it is not the bread and wine that are transformed but the meal itself.

Christ isn’t drawn back down to earth but we are drawn up into heaven to eat and drink with him there. That is, the communion meal becomes something more than just a bunch of people eating bread and drinking juice! Instead, we receive the meal as an invitation from God to dine with him in the spiritual realm even while we are in the physical realm. As we partake of it here on earth, we also partake of it in his presence in heaven. In this way, the food of which we partake endures to eternal life because our focus is drawn up and away from the flesh and toward the spirit, and we learn to trust that he will provide every good gift every moment of every day, even our daily bread.

So when we share the Lord’s Supper we need to avoid making the mistake that the crowd did in John 6.  They focused on the bread. We don’t look for him in the bread, around it, on top of it, or alongside it.

Instead, we focus on the fellowship in the meal: Christ comes and sets the table for us! We eat with him in body, soul, and spirit—simultaneously on earth and in heaven! He provides the food for the meal here on earth, as he does every time we come to the table. The bread we eat is physical and it remains physical, but if we understand “from where” it came and “to where” it points, to him who is the bread of life in heaven, then what we experience as we partake will endure to eternal life.

How else might the Work of Mercy of Sharing Your Bread impact the way we think about  the Lord’s Supper?  How else might the Lord’s Supper impact the way we think about Sharing Your Bread?

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Feeding the Hungry: Romance vs. Relationship

Part XI of our series on Sharing Your Bread

In our last post, we learned that the Greek word ethrepsamen used in Matthew 25:37 means more than just “feed”.  That impacts the way we should feed, and eat with, the poor and hungry.  A can of chili on a curb, devoid of any conversation about Christ, falls short.

And it’s not that volunteering at the food bank or soup kitchen are bad things to do for the poor.  But those are places to begin, not end.  As Lisa Carlson puts it,  ultimately “we must sit with them at the table, as Christ did.” Here’s Lisa’s story:

This month my husband and I shared meals with a handful of women that are prostituted in our neighborhood. We are grateful that they trust us enough to enter our home.As I reflect on the faces of each woman—one stands out to me the most, and this is the story that I must share: her name is “Rose.”

I met “Rose” on the corner of Aurora and 95th street. When I met her she was practically slumped over onto the fast paced street of Aurora, she could barely keep herself awake. I touched her on the shoulder and she looked at me as if she did not know where she was. She told me that she was in pain and that she had not slept in four days. She went on to tell me that a “john” had busted out all her teeth on a trick a few days ago, so that is what caused the pain. Her teeth were all knocked out and she hobbled as we stepped.

I invited “Rose” to walk with me to my home where she could take a much needed, much deserved nap in a safe place. She agreed and this began our 24 hours together.

“Rose” slept on the couch, and as she slept I prepared a meal of chicken, potatoes, bread and salad. I lit candles and put out our finest plates and napkins. When “Rose” woke up, I invited her to join us at the table. And as we sat together, she asked if she could pray for our dinner. Her prayer was beautiful and yet it held a harsh reality: as she prayed she shared with us that she is 40 years old and that she has been prostituted since age 13 when her dad started feeding her crack. In this prayer she thanked God for a warm and safe place to sleep and then she shared with us and with God that this is the first time that anyone has ever invited her into a home to eat.

My goodness, “Rose” is 40 and has been out in the streets for 27 years and this is the first time she has shared in meal fellowship!

I could not believe my ears.

As she ate, she shared that this was the best meal that she could ever remember having and then later on in the meal as she talked about her love of singing, she bust out into song! “Rose” spent the night at our home that night, and the next day I accompanied her to the methadone clinic and then to lunch at Recovery Café.

Rose received more than chitchat and a can of chili. She was received as Christ’s guest but she was not mistaken for him. The food provided by Lisa and her husband was not a commodity but rather a token and a pledge to withhold no good thing in Christ.

They hosted the meal in their home, not on a curb, because home is where they themselves prefer to eat.

The 24 hours of sharing did not end with Rose returned to the street corner to have sex with more men while Lisa sobbed uncontrollably in her car. Instead, Lisa accompanied Rose to the methadone clinic and then to lunch. Christ hosted the whole encounter and received recognition accordingly.

Romance was set aside in favor of relationship.

We grow to fullness in Christ in the sharing of bread not by handing out more and more cans of chili but rather by sharing Christ’s fellowship around our bread at our own  tables. We regard the meal as the meal of Christ, received from Christ as his provision and returned to Christ as our worship.

One way to grow in our ability to host is to grow in our ability to be a guest. So try this:

    • Head down to the rescue mission. Bring family and friends with you. But don’t go to “feed the homeless.” Instead, go to be fed with them—to eat a meal together side by side.
    • Give a donation privately to the mission to cover the cost. Then find out how it feels to be hosted.
    • Let God teach you from that experience how—and how not—to host others.

As Fritz Eichenberg’s, “Christ of the breadlines” woodcut depicts, the Christ who hosted feasts with borrowed food is most easily and authentically found holding the empty bowl and not the full ladle.

Denying ourselves the position of The Great Provider may be the best fast of all.

How does this change how you think about feeding the hungry.  What should you do differently?  What should your church do differently?

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