4 Promises and 7 Principles of Forgiveness, But are We Missing the Most Important Foundation?

Pierce O’Farrill’s forgiveness of gunman James Holmes raised the question for us in our previous post, What exactly does it mean to forgive your enemy? In that post we attempted to piece together a possible definition of Christian forgiveness from O’Farrill’s comments to the Baptist Press and the Denver Post, one that included

  • lack of anger
  • a prayerful attitude toward the offender
  • pity and empathy
  • a confident trust in the goodness and power of God to overcome evil.

Ken Sande, author of the seminal work The Peacemaker, commends four promises of forgiveness that do not invalidate O’Farrill’s concept but project forgiveness along a very different trajectory–one that draws upon a sustained and gospel-powered act of will that mirrors Christ’s own forgiveness of us:

[F]orgiveness may be described as a decision to make four promises:
“I will not dwell on this incident.”
“I will not bring up this incident again and use it against you.”
“I will not talk to others about this incident.”
“I will not let this incident stand between us or hinder our personal relationship.”

An equally thought-provoking definition of forgiveness comes from John Piper during a very challenging season for forgiveness at Bethlehem Baptist Church. Piper quotes the venerable Thomas Watson from three hundred years before:

[Watson] is commenting on the Lord’s Prayer, “Forgive us our debts as we for give our debtors,” and asks,

Question: When do we forgive others?

Answer: When we strive against all thoughts of revenge; when we will not do our enemies mischief, but wish well to them, grieve at their calamities, pray for them, seek reconciliation with them, and show ourselves ready on all occasions to relieve them. (Thomas Watson, Body of Divinity, p. 581)

O’Farrill’s thoughts, Sande’s promises, Piper’s precision–there’s enough here to last close to a lifetime of contemplation and productive action.

And yet…

Reading O’Farrill’s account–and even augmenting his definition with these tremendous additional insights–leaves me feeling we may be one principle short in our thinking about forgiveness.

One very important principle that stands to knock over–and then rebuild–the whole stack on a very different foundation.

More next post.

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What Exactly Would It Mean For You To Forgive James Holmes, the Aurora Gunman?

Baptist Press and the Denver Post each ran stories recently on Pierce O’Farrill, who pronounced forgiveness for gunman James Holmes hours after being shot in the arm and the foot and injured in the chest in Holmes’ Aurora theater massacre  in July. The BP article refers to O’Farrill as a “beacon of forgiveness,” which raises the question: What exactly does it mean to O’Farrill to forgive James Holmes?

It would be unfair to assume that the Baptist Press article provides an accurate, comprehensive, and systematic statement of O’Farrill’s understanding of forgiveness, but it does provide some notable trajectories.

“I’m not angry at him. I’ll pray for him,” O’Farrill said. “This is going to be hard for people to understand, but I feel sorry for him. When I think what that soul must be like to have that much hatred and that much anger in his heart — what every day must be like. I can’t imagine getting out of bed every morning and having that much anger and hatred for people that he undoubtedly has.”

“There is evil in this world, and there is a darkness,” O’Farrill said. “There is an enemy, but the wonderful news is there is a Light, and there is a Light that shines brighter than the darkness ever imagined.”

The Denver Post article adds:

“Of course, I forgive him with all my heart. When I saw him in his hearing, I felt nothing but sorrow for him — he’s just a lost soul right now,” said Pierce O’Farrill. “I want to see him sometime. The first thing I want to say to him is ‘I forgive you,’ and the next is, ‘Can I pray for you?'”

O’Farrill describes a forgiveness evidenced by a lack of anger and a prayerful attitude toward the offender, coupled with pity and empathy toward him. All of this appears undergirded by a confident trust in the goodness and power of God to overcome evil.

Is there anything that you would add to that definition? Remove from it? Reword? Revise? Please share your thoughts and comments below.

In our next few posts we’ll take a look at some very specific definitions of Christian forgiveness that will affirm portions of O’Farrill’s understanding, add in a few thoughts, rework and remove others–and turn one or two elements of what O’Farrill shared completely upside down.

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Proclaiming The Gospel In North Korea Part VI: How Do They Proclaim?

What is the best way to smuggle a Bible into a closed country? By enclosing it within the mind and heart of a well-trained Christian. That is how North Korean underground Christians proclaim the Word of God: From memory.

You can hide Bibles in bags of rice, suitcases of foreigners, or loads of other books, but the only surefire way for the Bible to clear any border crossing is in living form–that is, embodied in a Christian who has committed the Word of God extensively to memory.

Westerners and others from highly literate cultures are conditioned to think of memory as unreliable and fragile, yet as we’ve shared previously, the average Christian in the United States owns nine Bibles and is actively shopping for a tenth…yet biblical literacy is on a free-fall even among evangelical Christians.

So it turns out that what is external to us is actually far more fragile than what is internal. And this is why Christians in North Korea–and many other persecuting countries–emphasize memorization of large sections and whole books of the Bible, not just selected verses. And so underground North Korean Christians often end up memorizing more Scripture in just six months than many Western Christians do in a lifetime.

Sure, our Seoul USA organization still covertly distributes bibles and Christian literature in North Korea. But it is not the heart of our strategy. Discipling Christians to be living Bibles, capable of carrying the Word of God in their minds and hearts across every border, into any conversation, is what we’re all about. And it is what the church was all about for a longer stretch of her history than we modern highly literate high disposable income types can fathom.

One final excerpt here before we publish the book this fall on Mr. and Mrs. Bae, the third generation North Korean underground Christians. Here, Mr. Bae talks about his mother and his grandfather, and how the Word of God passed underground from first generation to second to third in his own family. As you read, consider how nowhere in Scripture are we called to smuggle Bibles. That doesn’t make it wrong, of course. But what is unfortunate is our misplaced belief that smuggling Bibles is a sufficient and cost-effective substitute for raising up Living Bibles. Would that more persecuted church ministry was focused on the latter than the former.

Would that most Western churches were, too.

I used to go along with my mother to many places. One day, my mom asked my grandfather if he would accompany us on a walk. She couldn’t talk freely in the house for fear that it had been bugged. At that time, in 1970, the government was on a campaign to exterminate all Christians, so believers were very careful to take precautions against bugging devices.

My mom asked my grandfather, “Dad, did you really hear God’s voice?” When he told her yes, she pressed him for all the details. He shared how God’s voice was especially clear to him when he fasted, prayed, or slept. My mom told him that she’d like to hear God as he had heard. She was sad that she couldn’t hear God, wondering how much deeper her dad’s faith was than hers.

At that time, she was in her thirties and curious about her faith. She kept asking him about Noah’s Ark, Sodom and Gomorrah, and the way people were created. Because there were no Bibles at that time in North Korea, her father became her living Bible. And she learned well. After he died, she passed those Bible stories on to me, all from memory. That’s how we came to know the Ten Commandments and a few hymn songs too.

After my grandfather died and we were exiled to live in the farming area, we didn’t pray before meals. Too dangerous, my mom said. But she still gathered us children together, often overnight, to give us lessons just like my grandfather had given her and her siblings each week—that we should live in accordance with the Ten Commandments and that we should remember what happened to Sodom and Gomorrah. She told us stories about Moses too—how his mother placed him in a basket and put it among the reeds along the bank of the Nile. It was fun to hear her tell us these old stories, but her purpose was never to entertain. The point was always the same, especially when we were going through the hardest times: God always watches us wherever we are, and he sees whatever we do. She wanted us to remember that, and she wanted us not to sin.

Excerpted from These are the Generations by Eric Foley. Copyright © 2012 by .W Publishing. All rights reserved. 

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